When I moved to Paris 9 years ago, I shouldn't have worried so much about dressing 'wrong' and knowing French

Business Insider | 08-08-2026 05:06pm |

When I moved to Paris nearly a decade ago, some things were easier than I expected, but I encountered challenges I hadn't even imagined.Jodie HughesI moved to Paris from the UK nearly a decade ago, and it's come with surprising challenges.The language barrier was both more and less of a challenge than I expected.Sundays and summers here look very different and a lot quieter than what I was used to.I moved to Paris from the United Kingdom in 2017, and while I expected some challenges along the way, I was surprised to discover that many of the things I'd been worrying about turned out not to be issues at all.However, in their place were several other unforeseen obstacles that I wished I'd been aware of before I relocated.The language barrier wasn't an issue in the way I expected it to beIt took me a while to find ways to actually practice my French.Jodie HughesI'd spoken French fluently-ish as a teen, but I'd barely used so much as a "bonjour" in the four years prior to my relocation. I was worried about the rustiness of my speaking skills, envisioning it causing real difficulties in day-to-day life.However, I also assumed that, since I would be totally immersed in the language, my French would come back in no time. I was wrong on both counts.Since practically everyone I encountered in Paris spoke English, my subpar French proved no obstacle at all. In fact, no matter how much I tried to speak French, in restaurants, in shops, on the metro, at the bank, you name it … most people simply replied to me in English.It was a blessing and a curse; simultaneously very convenient for going about my life, and very inconvenient for improving my French.Since I worked in English, and the first friends I made were all other international expats (who spoke English together), my opportunities to hone my language skills were virtually nonexistent.Eventually, getting on dating apps is what brought my French conversation skills back up to snuff.My takeaway: If you're not fluent in French before you move here, you will likely manage just fine. However, you may need to be proactive about finding opportunities to improve your speaking skills — and doing so should be a priority.Becoming comfortable with French isn't essential to getting by here, but it will vastly improve your experience as an expatriate. And, y'know, it's just … good manners.I should've been prepared for all of the bureaucracy battles and paperworkBefore I moved, I spent a lot of time researching the requirements I'd have to fulfill to live and work in France.As an EU citizen, I faced minimal red tape — but for the processes I needed to go through to get up and running as a resident, the message from forums, blogs, and articles alike was clear: French admin can be a nightmare.Naively optimistic as I was, I dismissed the repeated complaints as hyperbole. "How bad could it be?" I thought to myself, with completely unfounded confidence.The internet tried to warn me, but I didn't listen. Most essential tasks, like getting a social-security number and a health card, took way longer and required more effort than I expected.I imagine this may be the case when relocating to any new country. However, even after nearly a decade of living here, I still dread dealing with French bureaucratic systems (and all the paperwork they require).My takeaway: Be patient, set aside dedicated time to tackle essential relocation tasks, and take a lot of deep breaths. Getting a French phone number as soon as possible will also make administrative tasks (and life in Paris) a lot easier.Paris lives up to its chic reputation, but I didn't have to worry so much about my styleI feel comfortable wearing what I want in Paris these days.Jodie HughesPre-Paris, I worried I'd look out of place or underdressed because of this city's reputation for being ultra-chic. (I'm no fashionista.)However, I quickly discovered that it's very difficult to be either underdressed or overdressed in Paris.Something I found very refreshing when I moved to France was how much less "uniform" the clothing felt compared to the UK.Very extravagant or outlandish ensembles would raise more of an eyebrow here than in, say, London or New York, but as a general rule, at any given activity, occasion, or gathering, you'll see a real range of styles and levels of "dressiness."Within a year of moving to Paris, I felt able to dress in a way that was much truer to my personal tastes than I'd ever felt comfortable doing in England.My takeaway: Wear whatever you want. Style here feels generally understated, but there's no Paris "uniform."Sundays are way sleepier than I'm used toAround the time I moved, Galeries Lafayette was advertising that they would "now" be opening on Sundays, and it really confused me.I couldn't believe a world-famous department store in a capital city like Paris wasn't open on Sundays before. Turns out, a lot of places in France are closed on Sundays, which local labor laws have helped designate as a day of rest.Th

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